Should I homeschool?

Published by Lori Pickert on November 26, 2008 at 01:10 PM

Things are a little tough at the Creek this week, as my 91-year-old grandmother took a tumble, has been hospitalized, and now has to move to the nursing home, hopefully temporarily. She is a strong woman who has always lived alone, and she is proud of it. I hope everyone in the U.S. has a wonderful holiday and all of you have a great weekend. Since everything here is running at about quarter-power, I thought I’d rerun a question I got in the open thread last weekend from a mother considering homeschooling. As you might imagine, I get asked this question a lot!

Hi Lori,

I meant to come last week but didn't get around to it until Sunday when you were sweeping up the confetti :)

My question feels very broad and jumbled, but I'm hoping that you can help me make sense of my thoughts.

So here goes. My daughter started Kindergarten this past August at a carefully selected Catholic school: my husband is Catholic and went to Catholic school, and we hoped that Catholic school would have more consciously parented kids. That hasn’t really happened (did you know that there are Kindergarteners who are into High School Musical 3?). I just don't like the child she’s becoming, I don’t feel that she’s being challenged enough (she’s reading very well already and we're very hands-on, which the school just doesn’t seem to be), and well, I just don't like taking her to school and being away from her every day. I want her to be taught by someone who really appreciates and understands who she is, is really invested in helping her meet her potential, and I want her to have the time to really explore the things she's interested in rather than having to ‘finish up so we can go to recess.’ I feel like my husband and I could be great homeschoolers--we are very hands-on, love learning ourselves, are very DIY, and it feels like the way we interact with our kids is already very much about supporting their interests, teaching them about things, and allowing them the space to explore. The more I read about homeschooling and talk with people about it the more I feel that we can’t afford NOT to do it (equally, I don’t think we can really afford to send three kids to Catholic school, but that’s a secondary matter!). I want them to be the people they were meant to be and I don’t see that happening otherwise.

Sounds rosy, eh? I’m just terrified. My almost-six year old has a three year old brother and one year old sister, and we’ve talked about adding one more child. How can I do this? I don’t see how I can give Josie the attention that she’ll need and deserve while keeping Adelaide’s tiny hands out of her projects and not excluding Jasper. I’m already driven a bit crazy by them, as much as I adore each of them … how will I get through spending every day together? We have no family around here, and are prone to taking on too much already.

So, I guess that my question is … honestly, how can I do this? Am I nuts?

Thanks for reading this far, and I'm sorry if this is a bit out of the scope of your thread :)

xo, Amanda

Hi Amanda :^)

Open thread has no scope! That is the beauty of open thread.

Unfortunately I *do* know that there are kindergarten students who are into HSM3.

Here’s your own description of the teacher you want for your children: “I want her to be taught by someone who really appreciates and understands who she is, is really invested in helping her meet her potential, and I want her to have the time to really explore the things she's interested in rather than having to ‘finish up so we can go to recess.’”

There are teachers out there in public and private schools who meet those qualifications. There are teachers who are striving to be that, not just for one child or four children, but for twenty-four children (or more) every day, every year.

But when you roll the dice every year from kindergarten through high school, odds are, those teachers will not be the majority of the people who are working with your child.

The question is, could you be that person for your child.

Homeschooling is about more than education. It requires more of you than managing your child’s learning. It requires you to make your life what you need it to be. Not enough friends? You’ll have to find more friends. Need more time out of the house, more time for your children with other caring adults? You’ll have to find that, too. Or make it.

On the plus side, it’s very doable. It’s just a question of whether it’s something you want to choose to do.

What’s the worst thing that can happen? The negatives outweigh the positives, you decide it’s not a good fit for you and/or your child(ren). You tried it; it wasn’t for you. What did it cost? A year of your life? Any parent with a child in public school can tell you about a “wasted” year with a teacher who was either a bad fit for their child or just bad in general. Don’t be afraid of making a bold choice because it might not succeed. Don’t worry about what other people will think.

Life is a daring adventure, or nothing. Helen keller. What lesson do you impart to your child when you take this on? What lesson do you impart to yourself? That you aren’t afraid to jump in feet first? That you are willing to change what needs to be changed?

I read a quote in the book I was reading today, by Clare Walker Leslie. She was talking about art, but it applies to life as well: “Stop every now and then to evaluate whether you are really learning or enjoying as much as you would like. If not, have the courage to find out why and then change your path of study.”

A lot of people get on your case when you decide to homeschool. When you decide to do A and your friends (or relatives) do B, the less secure ones will think that your choice is saying something about them and their choices.

People who homeschool are no better or worse than people who don’t homeschool — plenty of homeschooled five-year-olds are into High School Musical 3 as well. *That* isn’t going to change. People are the same everywhere. Now, you may find more like-minded souls, but you will have to seek them out.

A lot of people like to say “You can’t control your child’s life — they have to be around bullies, know about video games/HSM3/YouTube, deal with this, learn to handle that.” They will continue to bray this at you while you take up the reins and decide to have more control over your life and your family’s life. And you can have more control. You can make it over to suit yourself more. That’s why most of us do it. Get used to a constant background noise of people telling you what a mistake you’re making. If you concentrate, you can make it sound like the ocean.

Re: giving your oldest adequate attention while dealing with your younger children, I suspect you already have an inkling of how this works. Once you decide to have more than one child, you know you can never give everything to everyone ever again. But then you find out that they start giving to each other, and there’s no deficit. In fact, you’re fine. You’re all taking care of each other. It doesn’t *hurt* your child to learn to accommodate others; it helps them. Will they get everything they want or need as soon as they want or need it? No, and that’s fine.

Now, I always feel like I’m backed into a corner and forced to cheerlead homeschooling, and I don’t particularly want to do that. For one thing, if more people do it, the library and the museum won’t be as quiet during the day. For another, it makes people mad at me, and I would rather quietly browse the buffet table than get into a heated argument with someone’s cousin about whether my children will be prepared to take their place in society 15 years hence. (I’m pretty sure they will.)

Also, almost all my friends don’t homeschool, and I think they’re just swell, and their kids are just swell. And almost all my friends are teachers, and my friends who are teachers are the kind of teachers who are amazing and inspiring and the kind of teacher your kid would be lucky to have. Or, they’re lapsed teachers who are now homeschooling their kids, which is cool, too.

So I don’t care whether you decide to homeschool or decide that your school isn’t that bad after all, and when you think about it, Zac Efron is really cute and the musical numbers are quite snappy, even if the whole picture has zero familiarity with actual high school. But I am completely sure that you are capable of homeschooling if that’s what you want to do — not that it will be completely easy from the get-go, but that you will be able to handle whatever comes along. Whatever you decide to do, it doesn’t make you one whit less smart or loving or involved. But do I think you’re nuts? No. Any time someone is really working hard at getting their best authentic life, I most decidedly do not think they are nuts.

46 comments

Comment by Ellie - Petalplum on November 26, 2008 at 02:44 PM

Lori,
Firstly I hope your Grandmother is feeling stronger, physically, soon. I hope she can go back to her home soon - if that's what she wants.
And secondly, thank you for being a wise and sharing woman and mother and educator. I, too, have been struggling and going back-forth-back-forth about this homeschooling thing. Though my children aren't of school age (my son "should" be at kindy), it is something that is on our horizon. Some days I know that we already homeschool - while some days I feel like I'm simply not "good" enough to homeschool my children. (Though, of course, some days I feel like I'm not quite good enough to be their mother!!).
What I'm saying basically, is that with your answer to Amanda's question, you have answered many of mine. But you have also empowered, and re-strengthened, and re-energised me. Well, actually, your blog does that. But sometimes particular words and thoughts do things more succinctly.
Take care of your family, enjoy your Thanksgiving.
-Ellie

Comment by amy on November 26, 2008 at 03:05 PM

I hope your grandmother recovers quickly! Take care of yourself.

I love this response to whether to homeschool. I so often see people expressing black and white on this topic, with no grey. I don't agree with those who say homeschooling has to be all or nothing, that you're not a "real" homeschooler if you don't commit to doing it straight through high school. How can anyone reasonably make a decision for the next twelve years? My husband and I have agreed to re-assess each year. It's our parent-teacher conference. :-) And all sorts of factors come under discussion--not just how the boys are doing but how *I'm* doing, too. Almost every day I wonder if I've made the right decision, if I wouldn't be a better and more patient mother if my child(ren) were in school for part of the day. Right now I have just about no time to myself, because the baby sleeps best during the day, when I'm busy with the older kids, and at night, when the older kids are in bed, I can't put her down. Even my husband has noticed that I'm more frayed around the edges the past few days, with just about no patience by dinnertime. The truth is, there is not one right way to do anything, and thank you for expressing that.

Comment by Stefani on November 26, 2008 at 03:14 PM

"If you concentrate, you can make it sounds like the ocean" -
seriously girl, you are so witty and wise. I think I'm going to have that printed up somehow and hang it on my wall!

Comment by Deirdre on November 26, 2008 at 03:47 PM

I just want you to homeschool my boys...while I observe and nurse the baby and read my own books:-)

Comment by Tracy (Tiny Mantras) on November 26, 2008 at 03:53 PM

I'm really glad you reposted this - I appreciate your insight. We're happy with our preschool, but really don't know where we'll go from here in a couple of years.

I hope your grandmother heals quickly.

Comment by tie-dyed doula on November 26, 2008 at 04:39 PM

i am truly amazed with the respectful, brilliant, enlightening way that you answered this mother. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom to her and all of us doubting our abilities to homeschool or not.

Shine on!!

Comment by Alison on November 26, 2008 at 05:54 PM

I can't say it better than my homeschooled teen daughter:

Q. What would you say to a parent who is thinking of homeschooling, but is worried they can’t do it?
A: I think they should try it before they give up, even if it’s just for a few days during summer break. Believe it or not, I hated the idea of homeschooling when it was first suggested to me.

Q. Do you think everyone should homeschool?
A: Some people aren’t home enough to homeschool, through no fault of theirs. I’m certain there are also kids that enjoy school. Homeschooling isn’t for everybody, although there are probably a great many people who would do better if they were homeschooled.

Comment by Ali on November 26, 2008 at 06:43 PM

Hi Amanda & Lori
I read with interest Amanda's homeschool dilemma & concerns because I had similar concerns a few months ago. I am new to "homeschooling" but not to teaching my children at home. We have always done extra learning projects and activities outside of public school, just because I thought they were fun and I liked to see my kids productive and learning. So, when I decided to try homeschooling instead of public school I soon found that my family was already part-way there! My point here is that you can give your kids similar freedom to explore their interests whether in ps or hs -- it comes down to how involved you are. From what you've said I'd bet you are homeschooling already, you just don't realize it.
Also, I think it would be easier to start off with hs than to get kids used to the way ps works then try to change them to hs. That is what we are doing now.
In my state, kindergarten is not mandatory. If that is true in your state, then this may be a good year to try out hs.

Comment by Shellyfish on November 26, 2008 at 07:06 PM

Just wanted to say I hope that your grandmother will be back on her *own* feet very soon. I'm so sorry, it's so difficult when we see those we love hurt and witness their independance threatened.
I hope your family will have a nice holiday, despite this hardship.

Comment by Thimbleina on November 26, 2008 at 08:06 PM

Well said - what a great post, you gave advice and didn't judge anyone else for their choices well done you really know your stuff.

Comment by Brynn on November 26, 2008 at 08:12 PM

I relate to these struggles. I pass along a little piece of wisdom that an almost stranger gave me a year ago.

"Don't feel like you have to make a schooling decision for your child's whole life. Make a decision for one child, for one year. Revisit your choices for every child each year."

This thought has been very liberating for me. I know homeschooling will be the right choice for us next year (kindergarten). I don't know what my son's needs will be after that, or what my needs will be, or what other opportunities may arise in the future. So I aim to stay present and sink into each moment and trust that the journey will unfold just as it should.

Blessings.

Comment by Quinne on November 26, 2008 at 08:40 PM

Hi Lori! I am so sorry to read about your grandmother's fall and will be praying for a quick, complete recovery.

Have a lovely Thanksgiving, too! Blessings, Q

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 27, 2008 at 03:34 AM

thank you, *everyone*, for your kind comments about my beloved grandmother. we are all going through a tough time; i truly appreciate your thoughts and prayers.

ellie, thank you -- she definitely wants to go back home! and thank you so much for your kind words about me and the blog -- i *really* appreciate it. i do want to empower, strengthen, and energize! that’s the best compliment i could get.

amy, thank you. i agree with you, and i’m not about black/white. i’m all about the gray. it’s easier when you accept that there is no perfect answer and there is definitely no solution that works for everyone. and you are so right that you need to make sure it’s the best decision for yourself as well as your children. that said, you know that having a baby is a job in and of itself. :^) make sure you give yourself a break and lower your expectations! maybe you can rearrange your schedule to make some family downtime in the middle of the day. take care of yourself!

stef, lol. you know what i’m talking about! ;^)

deirdre, if only you were a little closer. :^) we could trade off; i have books to read, too!

tracy, thank you. :^) you probably shouldn’t encourage my laziness, though. ;^)

thanks, tie-dyed doula! :^)

alison, your daughter’s answers are great!

ali, thank you for your insight and good advice.

shelly, thank you. it’s hard to enjoy the holidays when your thoughts are with a loved one who’s suffering. thank you for your good thoughts.

thanks, thimbleina. :^)

brynn, that’s a really good point. even people who continue homeschooling usually do it very differently as they move through the years. we have to give ourselves room to change and grow, and we have to make the best decision we can at the time, knowing things may change in the future. it is liberating, you are so right -- after all, how boring it would be if we knew exactly how everything would be from here on out.

thank you, quinne! i hope you and your family have a lovely holiday.

thank you all again, and i hope everyone has a lovely weekend!

Comment by Heather on November 27, 2008 at 03:02 PM

I hope you're grandmother is better very quickly.

Thank you for answering this question. I'm getting ready to be in this situation rather soon and it's a question I've been going over in my head as well. I don't know how I'd do with a Kindergartner at home and two more toddlers as well.

Thanks for all sharing your kind wisdom and never making us feel like you're cramming homeschooling down our throats : )

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 28, 2008 at 04:35 AM

thank you, heather. :^)

Comment by Ali Kat on November 28, 2008 at 03:38 PM

Thanks for checking out my blog! I really enjoyed this post. We are thinking of home schooling (even though she's only 15 mos) and have heard many people comment on the social problems of home schooled kids. I truly believe it is the best for MOST kids (to have their parents as the main influence in their lives just makes sense - especially considering all the problems with kids growing up too fast these days). And really, it hasn't been that long since we had smaller classes in one room schools, not unlike the home schooling people today are embracing. Guess I just needed to write that for my own confidence ;) I've been reading a lot more about it lately and am constantly brought back to it being so fantastic! It's so nice to have the internet to be able to read about other people's experiences :P

Comment by Jennifer R. on November 28, 2008 at 05:35 PM

Hello Lori,

I'm not sure how you found my blog, but I am glad you did. I am struggling with the question of how I will manage homeschooling my children, and I am hoping to make good choices as well as good connections with other people managing the same choices.

I want to provide my children the viewpoint that the world is wide open and beautiful, and their choices are nearly limitless. That is how I feel as I look around, and I started to realize in my teens that other people don't look at it the same way. Isn't that such a shame?

I look forward to reading more.

-Jen

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 28, 2008 at 06:21 PM

hi ali,

pfft. social problems. that comment is so stale. what social skills does public school teach you again? how to make jokes so the bully won’t punch you? how to sweet-talk a teacher into letting you do extra credit? ;^) homeschooled kids have way more time for being with other kids *and* they spend more time out in the real world interacting with all kinds of people of all ages. pfft.

not only did kids go to the one-room schoolhouse with kids ranging from 5 to 15, but many of them learned back on the farm from mom and dad. :^)

if you’re really interested in homeschooling, don’t let nay-sayers put you off. meet some real hs’ers and their kids first. and thanks for visiting!

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 28, 2008 at 06:23 PM

hi jen :^)

it is a shame -- and a great goal to have for your own children.

thanks for visiting, and i hope you find something good here! :^)

Comment by Sara on November 29, 2008 at 04:25 PM

Well said Lori. Very encouraging for the homeschooling family or public school family.

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 29, 2008 at 05:00 PM

thank you, sara.

Comment by Susana on November 29, 2008 at 10:19 PM

Hi Lori, hope your grandma is healing well.

Great discussion! I rarely read blogs these days, but your place here, well I'm always inspired and energized by the tone, the encouragement, and your gentle way. Your non judgemental manner is a rare gift. Bravo brave mama!

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 29, 2008 at 11:16 PM

hi susana! :^)

thank you so much -- that makes my day. it’s all about collaborating, ideas, and keeping an open mind! i really appreciate your support, as always. :^)

Comment by molly on November 30, 2008 at 05:05 PM

Lori: Been away from the computer most of the week through the holiday, and came back today to find this beautifully composed response from you that has my eyes brimming with tears and re-confirming all those reasons why we chose the homeschooling path this year. It may not be forever ... but it IS the right thing for us (our daughter and our family) RIGHT NOW.

God bless your family and you Grandmother as you transition into this new area for her as well. Speaking from experience, it is never easy.

Comment by Lori Pickert on November 30, 2008 at 06:00 PM

oh, molly, thank you so much. that means a lot to me.

my grandmother is adjusting pretty well. we are waiting to see if physical therapy can bring her back enough to move back home. at this stage of life, it seems every step backward tends to be a permanent step backward. we are hoping for the best!

Comment by renee @ FIMBY on December 1, 2008 at 07:34 PM

Lori, thanks for the thoughtful reply. As an outspoken and community active homeschooler of three young ones I get asked questions about homeschooling all the time. I am quite biased towards a homeschooling family life but I realize it's not for everyone (somedays it's not for me either!) so I like how you answered this question. I provided a link to it on my blog.

Oh, and I love those last sentences, "No. Any time someone is really working hard at getting their best authentic life, I most decidedly do not think they are nuts."

Comment by Amy (animal!) on December 1, 2008 at 09:13 PM

I just checked in after a long weekend away from the computer. I deeply appreciate your balanced response. I love the idea of "making it happen" for me and my family - this has been the joy of a homeschooling lifestyle for me so far - the inevitability of change, of responsiveness. I am not always graceful about it but it does keep us fresh and growing. Your perspective articulates so beautifully what (so often) I feel but find difficult to express.

Best wishes to your grandmother and family. These times are stressful.

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 2, 2008 at 12:48 AM

thank you, renee; i appreciate that.

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 2, 2008 at 12:51 AM

hi amy :^)

i’m not always graceful about it either. :^P but i do love the dynamic nature of homeschooling -- always changing, always evolving. like parenting. :^) just as we master something .. on to something else!

thank you so much for your kind words, and thank you for your thoughts for my family -- my grandmother is doing better, and we hope she will be able to go back home eventually.

thank you!

Comment by sarah on December 9, 2008 at 04:59 AM

there you go again, girl.

Comment by Alice on December 9, 2008 at 01:20 PM

Dear Lori,

I was intrigued by your exchange with your daughter - she says that she hated the idea of homeschooling when she first heard it mentioned. How did you go about presenting it to her?

My daughter is already in school and loves the social aspect of it. I would like to homeschool her, but when I have mentioned it, she hasn't been very interested.

Alice

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 9, 2008 at 03:44 PM

sarah, lol. ;^)

alice, oop — i’m a bit confused. i have two sons, and neither of them hated the idea of homeschooling. :^)

can i ask for more of your story? why are you considering homeschooling?

Comment by Alice on December 10, 2008 at 08:36 AM

Oops, nothing like putting your foot in it with your first post!:)

I copied the message here - it was actually Alisons.

"I can't say it better than my homeschooled teen daughter:

Q. What would you say to a parent who is thinking of homeschooling, but is worried they can’t do it?
A: I think they should try it before they give up, even if it’s just for a few days during summer break. Believe it or not, I hated the idea of homeschooling when it was first suggested to me."

I guess the idea of homeschooling has grown on me since my daughter was born, but we live in Italy where homeschooling is really rare. My daughter didn't start pre-school unti she was five so I guess we did do a couple of years of 'homeschooling' in her pre-school years.

What worries me most is the possible stigma of homeschooling - but I tend to make most of my choices despite what people think of me. I have been trying to avoid being 'different' once again, but the longer my daughter is in school the more inevitable the idea of homschooling becomes. I hate seeing her intelligence and creativity 'wasted/ignored' - I'm not sure what the right word is.

After reading this blog yesterday I showed her the art projects and other photos. She said "we can do homeschool in the holidays!". I liked her reply - I will have to get busy getting some materials organised:)

I have just finished putting a couple of years art work into binders - I want to get started on some kind of journal of her ideas and reading, too. I feel like we are doing homeschooling the hard way - in the time left over from structured school.

Alice

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 10, 2008 at 02:58 PM

maybe the best word is “unrequired”.

i think it’s wonderful that you are going to work with her in this way in the time that you have *and* that you are considering homeschooling, since you would be a pioneer where you live.

i think this goes back, again, to searching for your most authentic life. not that we don’t have to make compromises — we do — but i respect you (and i’m excited for you) while you wrestle with getting what you want for yourself and your daughter.

good luck, and let me know how it goes!

Comment by Alice on December 10, 2008 at 11:45 PM

'unrequired' - that is an eloquent way of putting it:)

'An authentic life' is another nice comment. I think that school fits in quite nicely with many peoples' lives, but I find it so disruptive. I can't wait until the holidays (and in Italy we get nearly three months over the summer) so that we can breathe again. I don't have to watch the clock all day, don't have to worry about have a clean uniform, clean tracksuit for sports day, something suitable for a snack. It can be quite stressful, and not very authentic.

I got a bunch of books at the library today for my seven year old (she was at school and I was killing time). She read through a volume of Asterix twice on her own but didn't understand some of the print or vocabulary, so I read it aloud to her at bed time. Today was a lucky day, our plans weren't thwarted by the dreaded homework.

Alice

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 11, 2008 at 12:34 AM

alice, i agree with you on both points -- many people seem to get along perfectly well with regular school and it fits *their* authentic life .. but for me, it is so completely intrusive. it completely controls your schedule, daily, weekly, yearly. this makes me think of so many things — schools refusing travel as an excused absence, high school students having to get up at 5:30 in the morning when their bodies need them to sleep till 10, etc.

the *lifestyle* of homeschooling is lovely — fitting things around your natural rhythms rather than the other way ’round.

homework! it’s a worldwide problem! sigh. have a peek at this site: http://stophomework.com.

Comment by Alice on December 11, 2008 at 08:32 AM

Thanks for that link, Lori. It is nice to read that I am not the only one. I will try and talk to the teachers about it - perhaps they don't realise what a problem it is (but they have school age children of their own - how can they not know).

I read a message about homework over the holidays and I so agree about it being the pits. We spend so much time co-ercing our daughter to do her homework when she would really rather be doing something else. I know you know this already. Excuse the vent.

After posting here, I talked to my daughter about homeschooling again. She looked at me wide-eyed and asked "Is it possibile to do that?". I am going to find out more about the legal side of it.

Alice

Comment by Lori Pickert on December 11, 2008 at 03:01 PM

alice, you are definitely not the only one! i’ll be interested to hear what the teachers say about the homework issue.

please share your research with us about the legalities of teaching in your country; i know i’m interested, and we do have worldwide readers!

Comment by Alice on December 11, 2008 at 05:56 PM

There is a yahoo group called scuolafamiliare for homeschooling in Italy (sometimes called also scuola paterna) which has a lot of legal information and links. The group is in Italian but there are also many English speakers.

Alice

Comment by amy k. on January 27, 2009 at 11:36 PM

I finally am reading older posts and am sending this to my mom and in-laws. so well worded and wonderful—thank you Lori.

Comment by Lori Pickert on January 28, 2009 at 03:27 AM

thank you, amy! :^)

Comment by MamaGoose on July 2, 2009 at 04:51 AM

It was when we once went to a video store, to pick out winnie the pooh, or something along those lines, as a special family movie night treat, and saw a girl smaller than my then 3 year old, picking up scary movie, and her father responding, "no, you saw that one already," that I solidly decided to homeschool too.

Comment by Shay on June 30, 2010 at 01:33 AM

Great post! Thanks so much for visiting my blog and linking to this - it's very encouraging! :)

Comment by Lori Pickert on June 30, 2010 at 08:17 PM

MamaGoose, yikes! :^O

shay, oh good, i'm glad you liked it. :^)

Comment by Akari on April 24, 2011 at 07:48 AM

It' now been over a year since I first found your post and thought " this is it!" Everything about what you were saying here aligned with what I was interested in for my kids and myself. I was once an artist working for a metal sculptor but stopped due to injury and needed not to be welding and breathing toxic fumes so I can have children. With my current desk job I have to remain working still for at least through the summer but I am seeing lights of hope for after that.

Tomorrow is my precious Sunday and I hope to be fully present with my boys. Thank you for your blog. It has been a light in a dark dark tunnel for me. But a little by little, things are shifting for the better...

Comment by Lori Pickert on August 3, 2011 at 10:33 PM

akari, thank you so much - this was a beautiful message to find today. i'm sorry i didn't answer it earlier! let me know how things are going. xo

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